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(1) To proceed moving successful the mediate east/north continent portion (not household affable owed to on-going war); hence settee the household successful Sri Lanka
(2) To enactment successful Sri lanka (again nary options successful my location town, but to commute 3-4 hrs 1 mode oregon find accommodation successful the enactment metropolis and question location lone during weekend)
(3) To instrumentality a abbreviated interruption from my vocation to rest, unbend and assistance household members to readjust successful their location state (especially kids and their schoolhouse activities)
After analyzing each the supra options, I decided to instrumentality a sabbatical from work. Now that, its been already 6 months, and I americium successful the process of re-applying and readying myself towards the adjacent chapter.
I person the pursuing options successful manus close now, and I anticipation this forum could lend to my decisions since you recognize my beingness well.
Option one: Received an fantabulous connection successful Sri Lanka, but the work presumption is immoderate 3 hrs (one way) distant from our home. I tin rent an flat and enactment determination during enactment week, and sojourn location successful weekends. Kids volition person to unrecorded nether the attraction of my H and my mom. Of people we person 2 maids who tin assistance their needs.
Option two: Continue to tally my location based consultancy business. It is going ok. But decidedly not yielding arsenic I expect to be. Very overmuch debased income compared to what I gain successful my UN career. However, the magnitude of work, effort and attraction I person to wage to prolong and turn this steadfast is excessively much. Sometimes, I consciousness contempt of moving from home, I don't person prime clip to walk for myself oregon with family. But, being location and being determination for the household whenever they request maine is priceless.
Option three: To judge my regular planetary contract. This time, I was offered a 2 twelvemonth (extendable) declaration successful Bratislava, Slovakia. This is simply a developed country, a household presumption truthful I tin instrumentality my household (and mom) on with me. I tin proceed 9-5 casual occupation with large salary, and bask work-live equilibrium by proceed to beryllium home.
However, I americium acrophobic astir the below:
1) Option 1 whitethorn look large connected paper, but keeping my H and ma unsupervised nether the aforesaid extortion tin bring Gaza concern wrong our home. I can't grip the accent from abroad. I americium much disquieted astir my kids too. My ma and H don't get along, and enactment childish and astir of you cognize the past well. Even though my siblings person interfered and strictly warned ma not to poke her chemoreceptor excessively overmuch into our/my H's concern and explained however it has affected my beingness and that of the kids truthful far, I uncertainty she heard immoderate of their advises. She whitethorn support rather for now, but her accustomed mode of interferences volition yet start, and my H arsenic good not a saint.
Given the history, I can't unopen my mom, particularly astatine this age. At the aforesaid time, I can't fto my H endure oregon fto him maltreatment ma either. My lack tin deteriorate the hard earned bid astatine home. The occupation is not worthy the struggle.
2) Option 2 is peaceful. But my caput is ever restless reasoning astir Sri Lankan economical crisis, and the aboriginal of our lives. Even though we are good settled now, staying home/or earning small during the highest years of our vocation is simply a shame. Especially what if we devour everything we person by the clip kids are graduated, and past what next?
What if we request much successful the aboriginal to support the aforesaid modular of unrecorded arsenic par with my siblings and others?
The accustomed worries of each parents deed maine hard. Especially erstwhile I person the means to gain more, I cannot peacefully settee with less.
3) Option 3 whitethorn look the champion choice. Moving to a Schengen state with a diplomat visa, and household is beyond my dream. But this besides has its ain struggles.
Owing to the beingness style, and outgo of surviving I uncertainty I could prevention overmuch there. But that's not my biggest interest arsenic agelong arsenic I don't devour from my savings.
UN does not supply acquisition allowance to the unit successful Slovakia arsenic determination are nationalist insinuations that supply escaped and prime acquisition for each the kids. But unluckily successful Slovak oregon Hungarian language, which is not the mode of my kids' education.
Private acquisition successful Slovakia seems ace costly and not affordable arsenic per net search. I mean, determination is nary constituent successful going there, amended kids successful backstage schools and instrumentality location with bare pocket. I person a emblematic mediate people mentality 
I americium yet to research different backstage schools though....
The declaration is initially for 2 years, but renewable. If I proceed for different 3 years, we volition beryllium eligible for Slovakian PR, which offers astir benefits their citizens enjoy, arsenic good arsenic the EU benefits.
My H tin besides look for jobs there, and adjacent we tin determination to different EU countries if we get amended offers for good. Then I tin discontinue aboriginal from UN and bask amended unrecorded with family.
This volition assistance america unafraid a agleam aboriginal elsewhere, fixed the concern successful SL. Especially for the kids arsenic they tin unafraid amended acquisition and jobs successful those countries.
But what if we don't person opportunities beyond the 2 twelvemonth mark? What if we are coming backmost to SL oregon I person to spell to different state aft that? What happens to kids if we support connected moving them state aft country?
Will they suffer involvement successful their studies?
My caput say, they volition suffer involvement successful their studies if their ma dosn't unrecorded with them. They volition suffer involvement successful their studies if the location is connected occurrence each the time. And of people they volition suffer involvement successful studies if we support changing their school.
But, earning and investing connected their aboriginal is arsenic important too.
I person the enactment to skip this opportunity, and await for another. But I can't warrant I volition get thing better
Please counsel me......
