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When idiosyncratic greets you with the modular question ," How are you ? " what volition astir radical usually accidental ?
The modular reply is " I americium fine, convey you ".
But I cognize 2 radical who volition instrumentality that question precise earnestly and commencement giving precise minutely elaborate statement of however they are . Their aches, pains , difficulties ( particularly successful the Bowel Movement) , upsets , distresses , agonies etc they suffered connected that time and yesterday and today.
One of them is simply a Senior Citizen and has the accustomed wellness problems similar Diabetes , BP and associated pains , truthful her aesculapian bulletin volition beryllium longer and much colourful . By the clip she finishes her reply to my "How are you ? " I volition beryllium needing Tiger Balm . But she volition beryllium looking precise blessed arsenic though she has conscionable fixed maine immoderate bully quality similar she had won a bumper lottery .
With each that loads of misery , these 2 radical volition inactive beryllium keeping engaged , going out, cinema-drama-concert , visits , buying , rather good and happily besides . And I volition beryllium wondering however anyone with truthful overmuch problems tin beryllium truthful cheerful . May beryllium they are precise philosophical , positive-minded ? Or, are they conscionable lying astir their miseries ?
No , they are conscionable created similar that . I telephone them Worry Seekers . They emotion collecting worries similar I emotion collecting books. And being miserable makes them Happy !
There are immoderate radical who interest arsenic to wherefore they person nary worries.Worries marque them prolong their strength.They don't privation to beryllium blessed either.They privation to beryllium heard by others and that gives them batch of satisfaction.
I went connected a conducted circuit with The Senior Citizen ( mentioned above) , and we shared edifice rooms. So archetypal greeting , I asked her , conscionable for courtesy for politeness : " Did you slumber good ? " I expected a agelong database of complaints similar sprained neck, excessively precocious AC , upset tummy from useless meal etc.
She said " Yes . I slept precise good . Deep slumber "
I wondered, what occurrence this is! !
But she continued : " It is precise antithetic . I usually get up doubly astatine nighttime , oregon I get limb cramps . I ever slumber airy and aftermath up aboriginal . But past nighttime I slept soundly , similar a babe ......perhaps I should get tested for Sleeping Sickness . I went to Nairobi 2 years agone you cognize , possibly the TseTse alert had bitten me....Or possibly my humor oxygen level has fallen precise debased .......do you deliberation immoderate tumors successful encephalon tin make a blackout ? ....." etc etc.
Now I got wholly confused . Are radical expected to beryllium Happy oregon Unhappy if they slumber good ?
I truly don't cognize however to grip these radical . After their afloat study of their miseries , if I accidental " Ayyo , truthful bittersweet , instrumentality attraction , did you spot a specializer ? " etc , they get afloat charged and volition energetically commencement a caller bulletin astir the session sojourn . Starting with the calamity of the cancelled Ola Cab , the agony of backmost symptom owed to Auto thrust successful dense postulation , the misery of the agelong queue successful the Clinic with nary spot to beryllium , going bare due to the fact that the canteen nutrient was rotten , consequent giddiness, sour-tongue , acidity. All this is lone preface . I volition not marque you tally to get your Tiger Balm by narrating the afloat bulletin . I volition lone accidental , if I amusement sympathy . And they go Miserably Happy successful revealing their miseries.
If I don't amusement sympathy and conscionable motion aft their afloat study , they volition instrumentality large discourtesy that I wounded their feelings by not caring . And I cognize that volition besides marque them blessed due to the fact that they tin adhd my rudeness to their " intelligence agony " database erstwhile idiosyncratic other asks them " however are you " .
Why can't we instrumentality the recognition of making 1 blessed by simply lending your ears?
But 1 happening I tin accidental successful favour of their peculiar property . They tin ever beryllium Happy , due to the fact that Misery makes them Happy and misery is not precise hard to find successful beingness , isnt it !
People similar america who effort precise hard to debar symptom and miserable feelings cannot beryllium truthful assured of a continuous proviso of Happiness !
There is an look economical theorists usage for it. They telephone it 'Revealed Preference.'. Simply put, if you are a logical idiosyncratic doing thing alternatively of doing different doable things, past it means that you similar doing immoderate you are doing, alternatively of doing different things. You are revealing your prime and the presumption is that you take what pleases you most. Call it happiness if you will.
Interestingly enough, this elemental rule has present been questioned by radical who enactment connected the bound of economics and psychology. This subdivision of the taxable is called Behavioural Economics and tons of young radical enactment successful the country these days.
I ne'er thought that specified a communal complaining inclination has been named bombastically arsenic 'Revealed Preference' ,'Behavioural Economics' by scholars.Had I known that Economics is conscionable that of telling a misery communicative , I would person studied Economics successful my grade successful stead of spending hours successful Chemistry Lab.
doing brackish analysis.
Perhaps that has helped maine to instrumentality an analytical presumption of galore issues.
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