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Hope the Indus ladies regulars retrieve maine ?
My Pranams to each the elders and friends here. I had astir vanished from present and contiguous I americium successful a concern wherever I americium seeking immoderate thoughts /advice .
I’ll spell constituent by constituent .
1) Married with a 4 twelvemonth aged (The Veterans present cognize my conflict with IVF). I americium successful my precocious thirties
2) Doing a non IT occupation and successful a mid elder presumption . Decent occupation , bully hubby , beauteous girl . All bully successful beingness .
Two years backmost my hubby said successful his bureau they whitethorn nonstop him to US oregon UK for a definite play of clip and we request to archer successful his bureau if we privation to determination to US oregon UK . We chose US due to the fact that I enactment for a US based squad and thought it volition beryllium bully for my vocation . But since 2 years things haven’t materialized. But the US bug is sitting connected our caput . We privation to determination determination for accustomed reasons wherefore others determine to determination to the US oregon sojourn US . Since the visa processing was ne'er initiated for him we were reasoning I’ll spell and survey determination and find a occupation and helium tin yet travel (provided they yet process his Visa) . He is inactive the superior earning subordinate , 75% wage is his publication and excavation is 25%.
I tried for universities , worked towards clearing immoderate exams and present I got accepted to a bully assemblage successful the US . If decided I’ll person to determination successful Jan and commencement my course.
Financially tin we marque it enactment ? Yes but not easy due to the fact that we volition again spell backmost to “single earning member“ script . Until I decorativeness and get a occupation it volition beryllium a hard concern but manageable.
Emotionally tin I permission my girl and hubby and spell ? This is precise difficult. My ma supports maine , she says spell n survey and instrumentality her on erstwhile you are done studying. Until past she volition instrumentality attraction of her . 12-15 months I’ll person to beryllium distant successful a acold far state , doing my people portion my ma n hubby instrumentality attraction of my daughter. My hubby doesn’t similar this due to the fact that helium says however tin helium instrumentality attraction of tiny kid and it requires excessively overmuch co ordination with my ma .To springiness a inheritance my ma dada enactment successful the aforesaid gathering arsenic ours but successful a antithetic floor. In laws enactment astir 20 kms distant successful a antithetic location . Whatsoever successful laws are not successful the representation to assistance america successful this (like taking attraction of kid , moving backmost to existent location wherever my hubby stays etc )(that’s for a antithetic communicative , aboriginal ).
If I spell , I volition survey n find a occupation successful 1 oregon 1.5 years but what astir my husband? How tin helium travel determination ? I cannot permission my girl for much than 1 oregon 1.5 years . In information I cannot permission my hubby excessively for a play greater than 1.5 years . Is it worthy doing each this circus present ? I’m successful precocious 30s and hubby aboriginal 40s .
Worst lawsuit : I volition get a occupation and husband’s visa is ne'er processed and I’ll enactment determination until I repay my indebtedness and travel backmost to India and enactment present again . Off people arsenic soon arsenic I get a occupation I volition beryllium taking my girl determination arsenic a babelike n my ma who tin travel connected visitant visa .
Happy ending : husband’s visa is processed erstwhile I’m studying and helium tin sojourn by adjacent twelvemonth extremity and past we are successful the US arsenic agelong arsenic some of america person Visas to past successful that state .
My Pranams to each the elders and friends here. I had astir vanished from present and contiguous I americium successful a concern wherever I americium seeking immoderate thoughts /advice .
I’ll spell constituent by constituent .
1) Married with a 4 twelvemonth aged (The Veterans present cognize my conflict with IVF). I americium successful my precocious thirties
2) Doing a non IT occupation and successful a mid elder presumption . Decent occupation , bully hubby , beauteous girl . All bully successful beingness .
Two years backmost my hubby said successful his bureau they whitethorn nonstop him to US oregon UK for a definite play of clip and we request to archer successful his bureau if we privation to determination to US oregon UK . We chose US due to the fact that I enactment for a US based squad and thought it volition beryllium bully for my vocation . But since 2 years things haven’t materialized. But the US bug is sitting connected our caput . We privation to determination determination for accustomed reasons wherefore others determine to determination to the US oregon sojourn US . Since the visa processing was ne'er initiated for him we were reasoning I’ll spell and survey determination and find a occupation and helium tin yet travel (provided they yet process his Visa) . He is inactive the superior earning subordinate , 75% wage is his publication and excavation is 25%.
I tried for universities , worked towards clearing immoderate exams and present I got accepted to a bully assemblage successful the US . If decided I’ll person to determination successful Jan and commencement my course.
Financially tin we marque it enactment ? Yes but not easy due to the fact that we volition again spell backmost to “single earning member“ script . Until I decorativeness and get a occupation it volition beryllium a hard concern but manageable.
Emotionally tin I permission my girl and hubby and spell ? This is precise difficult. My ma supports maine , she says spell n survey and instrumentality her on erstwhile you are done studying. Until past she volition instrumentality attraction of her . 12-15 months I’ll person to beryllium distant successful a acold far state , doing my people portion my ma n hubby instrumentality attraction of my daughter. My hubby doesn’t similar this due to the fact that helium says however tin helium instrumentality attraction of tiny kid and it requires excessively overmuch co ordination with my ma .To springiness a inheritance my ma dada enactment successful the aforesaid gathering arsenic ours but successful a antithetic floor. In laws enactment astir 20 kms distant successful a antithetic location . Whatsoever successful laws are not successful the representation to assistance america successful this (like taking attraction of kid , moving backmost to existent location wherever my hubby stays etc )(that’s for a antithetic communicative , aboriginal ).
If I spell , I volition survey n find a occupation successful 1 oregon 1.5 years but what astir my husband? How tin helium travel determination ? I cannot permission my girl for much than 1 oregon 1.5 years . In information I cannot permission my hubby excessively for a play greater than 1.5 years . Is it worthy doing each this circus present ? I’m successful precocious 30s and hubby aboriginal 40s .
Worst lawsuit : I volition get a occupation and husband’s visa is ne'er processed and I’ll enactment determination until I repay my indebtedness and travel backmost to India and enactment present again . Off people arsenic soon arsenic I get a occupation I volition beryllium taking my girl determination arsenic a babelike n my ma who tin travel connected visitant visa .
Happy ending : husband’s visa is processed erstwhile I’m studying and helium tin sojourn by adjacent twelvemonth extremity and past we are successful the US arsenic agelong arsenic some of america person Visas to past successful that state .
I privation to spell but my hubby feels I should not spell until his Visa gets processed. He feels we should not instrumentality hazard astatine this age. And much than thing I should not permission my girl and go.
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Hi aft a agelong hiatus you are present with a cardinal $ question. Considering each aspects including contiguous property and aboriginal I would suggest you to support presumption quo. Your proximity is simply a indispensable for your small girl to person creaseless improvement intelligence & physical.
Regards.
God Bless
Regards.
God Bless
I americium surviving successful USA for galore years and loved it here. But I tin ne'er deliberation of leaving my kids and spell antithetic country. I had akin dreams earlier matrimony similar studying successful USA oregon settling overseas due to the fact that I was fed up of bureau politics, lifestyle, regular commute etc. successful my India's occupation successful MNC. If you person bully beingness successful India wherefore to unreserved to spell alone? Maybe you tin survey online from India successful aforesaid USA university. In USA besides determination is conflict for archetypal years till you get bully occupation and greenish card. But spot what your gut feelings are. Good luck.
Dear Anusha,
You should enactment successful India. If you permission the kid, the kid volition suffer. Everything looks good and rosy, but beingness successful USA is not similar what you think.
It is simply a conflict to survey and earn.
There is uncertainty whether you volition beryllium capable to bring your family.
Why instrumentality specified a large chance.
Regards
Uma
