How Should One React To Silly Lies And To Disrespect?

nayidulhan Silver IL'ite

How should 1 react/ respond-
1) To an worker (who works for you i.e. You wage them their monthly salary) moving precocious (without informing) and not answering your calls saying their cellphone was connected soundless mode.

2) To an worker taking excessively overmuch clip for a elemental task that they would instrumentality little than 20 minutes to complete, before. (This behaviour is intermittent- determination are phases erstwhile the worker behaves similar this and past returns to their mean businesslike aforesaid aft a fewer days . What's irritating is the information that I tin not foretell their behavior)

3) To a workfellow who keeps lying for silly things. eg spreading a rumor that they R2I due to the fact that they were homesick and to instrumentality attraction of their aging parents erstwhile the information is that they were trying to get successful interaction with adjacent shady placement consultants to proceed moving abroad, aft their visa was nary longer good. Also, their parents don't adjacent unrecorded successful the aforesaid metropolis and different household subordinate stays with them.

4) To an acquaintance who says their lad has taken admittance successful a mediocre engineering assemblage successful their municipality due to the fact that they wanted him to enactment adjacent to home. Actually, his All India Rank was debased and truthful helium could not get into immoderate of the decent ranked Univs.

I cognize astir of these situations are not worthy spending excessively overmuch clip connected but their repeated occurrence is wholly annoying. Am I reacting unnecessarily? Should I conscionable disregard each these and absorption connected the positives, arsenic applicable?

Rihana Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

For 1 and 2, it depends connected the employment situation. If it is simply a home help, past judge that arsenic mean oregon regenerate the employee, nary constituent trying to hole that behaviour oregon one's absorption to it. Actually, for immoderate employment situation, 1 follows the accustomed steps to assistance the worker improve, if that works, great, if not, replace. There is nary request to instrumentality immoderate employee's enactment ethic personally.

For points 3 and 4, widen grace, amusement understanding. People spell done pugnacious beingness decisions and whitethorn springiness reasons that dependable amended oregon support their pride. They don't beryllium the unvarnished information to acquaintances, colleagues, oregon anyone until they are acceptable to stock it.

Frankly, labeling their R2I crushed arsenic a rumor, oregon dissecting a family's assemblage prime crushed comes crossed arsenic rather off-putting.

nayidulhan Silver IL'ite

Thanks for your reply, beloved @Rihana

Points 1 & 2 are pertaining to a Multi-tasking unit subordinate successful an bureau acceptable up. So what you said present is rather relevant.

Sorry for the atrocious sensation successful lawsuit of points 3 & 4. I cognize their concern good due to the fact that they person shared the information with fractional the world, including me, successful the past. So wherefore achromatic lavation it now? I mean information ever prevails. Why should 1 effort to deterioration masks then?

In lawsuit of Point 3, they person a thriving vocation successful India. Why weave tales erstwhile everyone is alert of the information and marque a fool of oneself successful the process? Really not required, right?

In lawsuit of Point 4, the pupil has gotten admittance on merit. The requirements for admittance successful that assemblage were casual to conscionable and helium got through. That's good but the constituent is it was solely connected merit. I consciousness the parents should person owned up to it. They are sending incorrect signals to the son. Their words are covering up the information and springiness an content that their son's people (however debased it whitethorn be) is not bully capable to share. The parents should person been truthful astir it each and made the lad consciousness comfy with the situation. I consciousness guiltless teens similar this 1 whitethorn consciousness subtly judged with this cognition of parents. What bash you think?

In immoderate case, I don't person the bosom to speech to these radical to sermon my position with them. I americium lone trying to recognize their behaviour to larn my acquisition from it.

kaluputti Platinum IL'ite

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I cognize astir of these situations are not worthy spending excessively overmuch clip connected but their repeated occurrence is wholly annoying. Am I reacting unnecessarily? Should I conscionable disregard each these and absorption connected the positives, arsenic applicable?[
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Yes, it seems similar giving excessively overmuch importance.They are wired that way, they tin lone behave successful that way. truthful we cannot flight from getting annoyed arsenic a spontaneous response, but should retrieve from it with the aforesaid spontaneity , since we are not going to alteration the concern successful each the cases successful immoderate way. Why discarded clip and our energy

Rihana Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

"When successful a hole, halt digging." : ) Don't usage presumption similar achromatic wash, wearing masks etc. We ne'er cognize everything that is going connected successful people's lives. Why is it truthful important that they stock the "true" reason? There are assumptions and judgements galore successful your investigation of the situations. I spell for the attack of judge what radical accidental astatine look value. If they aboriginal alteration their story, beryllium bully astir it, and assistance successful immoderate mode if you can.In different lifetime, I knew idiosyncratic who often said, "Why bash you care?"

I deliberation this whitethorn beryllium a taste difference. In India, radical thin to beryllium much open, forthcoming and expect the aforesaid from others. In the U.S., adjacent with adjacent ones, there’s a bound we effort to respect. If idiosyncratic gives a crushed that seems off, we usually spell on with it.

I’ve noticed this personally. When my kid’s advancement oregon milestones weren’t arsenic expected, my friends successful the U.S. were supportive but didn’t pry oregon expect maine to ever beryllium transparent and upfront astir struggles. My friends and household successful India, connected the different hand, expected the information and wanted to beryllium determination for maine much than I was comfy with. The enactment from Indian friends successful the U.S. friends is much connected demand, portion India friends privation to ever beryllium there.

TL;DR - "Stay successful your lane" is simply a useful regularisation to travel for astir conversations and societal interactions.

Rihana Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

So, the kid got a people that is mostly considered low. The parents tin thatch (and possibly require) the kid to beryllium good with it and stock it proudly without reservations. Or, they tin admit that determination are times successful beingness we request to cognize however to trade a connection that takes attraction of people's questions and comments. Both are good approaches. I personally similar the latter, and person helped my kid travel up with ready-to-use responses for things they are not comfy sharing with others.

"Why fell something?" "Why beryllium ashamed of it?" is 1 approach. "I recognize close present this is simply a sore spot and you don't privation to radiance airy and caller aerial connected it." is another.